My Body is not a Fashion Statement

I read earlier this week that the latest ‘trend’ to hit the world is small nipples, this is to such an extent that many women are getting plastic surgery to reduce the size of their nipples in the hopes of staying en vogue.

As we grow our skin stretches (if it didn’t puberty would have been a much worse nightmare, see Freddy Kruger for inspo). Small nipples on big boobs are a fashion statement as feasible to achieve naturally as me being able to pull off padded shoulders or flared jeans (I’m short and broad shouldered, need more be said?).

But, this is brought me back to another article I read a few weeks back, claiming that for the first time in years it is more desirable to have a large bum than large breasts, but, fear not, big boobs are still a close second.

It seems that the small nippled, large breasted, big bottomed women are the must have fashion statement of year – I’ll add that to my wish list of wardrobe updates for 2017, shall I?

Fashions have a great effect on how we style ourselves and a profound effect on our self confidence. We have all looked back at one time in our life and thought ‘good god, I used to wear that/do my hair like that’ just because it was the fashion and we were ‘on trend’.

I remember as a teen having the biggest side fringe on a side parting (the emo fringe) until one day realising that I was very much out of fashion, deciding to swap to an a-line fringe on a middle parting, far more in fashion. Some fashions can make us look back in embarrassment, other fashions can make us feel embarrassed at the time.

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I also recall getting my hair cut shoulder length with a full fringe, a huge mistake as not only did I look awful, shoulder length hair went out of date way before I was able to get my long hair back. I remember feeling downhearted when I began university as all these girls with super long hair strutted around whilst, against my will, I was still modelling hair that refused to grow past my shoulders.

As everyone that has been through a similar thing will know, feeling uncomfortable with something like that can make a huge difference to your self-esteem and confidence. I can look back now and laugh, feel stupid that I cared so much. When what you’re being told to change is short hair to long hair, skinny jeans to mum jeans or flares, or stiletto heels to platforms, in the long run it’s a minor change. Fashion changes all the time, if it didn’t shops wouldn’t sell nearly as much.

But, when suddenly your body is unfashionable; something difficult to change, sometimes naturally impossible, it reaches a whole new level of self-esteem crushing objectification.

I am a petite woman, brunette, I have large breasts and the standard nipple size that comes with that. I have always had large hips and an hourglass shape, I have never quite had the bum to go with it. I have been both in fashion and out of fashion.

As a kid thin blondes were all the rage, as an adult it was hourglass brunettes. My large boobs constantly saw attention throughout my teenage years, and now my butt seems to draw judgement.

Like my short, fringed hair was a fashion statement that went out of fashion many perpetuate that so is my hourglass shape or larger breasts. But unlike my hair, I cannot wait until my waist grows out, or hide away my breasts until they’re back in fashion. I can work months on getting a more peachy bum, but by the time I achieve it will I have to cut the carbs and stop the squats?

In a week where we have seen thousands of women across the world march in protest against things just like this, I can’t help but feel consistently disheartened by our world, and by the constant struggle we face to be who we are without judgement.

We are women, our bodies are our own. Whether you’ve got large nipples, a flat bum and small boobs, whether you need to breastfeed in public, whether you need the right to an abortion, your body is your own and only you should be able to make the judgement on what is acceptable and what isn’t, what is fashionable and what isn’t.

A cliché, perhaps, but I sincerely hope that one day tolerance, acceptance and love will be the fashion, even if for as brief a time as I hope the return of platform shoes will be.

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NB: I am aware this this is not a wholly female issue, and that men struggle with the ever more exaggerated images of masculinity, huge muscles, abs of steel, etc. this took the stance of women because 1. I am one 2. Articles relating to the creation of this blog were targeted at women 3. I am not a man so cannot speak for one.

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3 thoughts on “My Body is not a Fashion Statement

  1. I hadn’t heard about the small nipple trend. Ridiculous. One’s nipples generally get bigger after pregnancy. It is sad how detached the world has become about what a woman actually looks like and they are more concerned about some media fed cookie cutter image.

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